So since the whole becoming a ‘Mummy blogger’ thing, I can’t help but read some comments about how absolutely ‘stupid’ and ‘ridiculous’ it is to do this? I wish someone would have told me before I stupidly enough went and spent money on creating a website and a name to actually want to try and help people…
Can you believe that someone wanting to share their own personal experiences and stories with people purely for the benefit of others is so goddamn rotten? And for ME to actually do it, the person some people just “never expected to stoop so low”?
I admit it, I fell into the ‘trap’. I’m an idiot… I thought I was better than this too but here I am succumbing to blogging my boring old life to people who just do not want to read it because im just ‘another’ one of those…
“All she wants is attention”.
Well I can’t help but say there is truth to this statement. I suppose in some ways I am an attention seeker; life would be pretty boring if I was Snapchatting about personal things and no one was there on the other end listening hey? But then again, I don’t force you to follow me on any of my channels. I don’t make your fingers find my page so you can look at my stuff and say what you feel. I simply post things that are relevant to me at the time; what’s happening to me at the time and how I’m feeling at the time.
“I know someone who has cancer AND is a single mum. Her situation is WAY more harder then yours. What a joke”.
This one in particular struck a chord with me. Why? Because for one it was one woman trying to bring another down after I had just come out and said how much I was struggling. And two, since when did it become a competition about who’s life is harder then anyone else’s? I most certainly never stated anywhere that I’m the most hard-done by woman in Australia, did I? No, I don’t believe I did. The problem with these articles is some people just don’t get past the headlines. “WAG” “IM IN SHOCK” “HARD DONE BY” “POOR ME” and before they can even take the time to read a little further, they’ve already clicked send. They are now feeling rather satisfied that they’ve just absolutely NAILED it. “Yep, I just told her!” Now everyone will know the truth because the man, or the woman, who has no clue about anything with a fake name has just said that “SHE IS EXACTLY WHERE SHE WANTS TO BE, IT WAS PLANNED NOW SHE IS SET FOR LIFE”. What a plan, huh? It only took three miscarriages, an engagement and a whole lot of other shit to finally get here.
When someone opens up about their life, no matter how bad it is on your own personal scale, it is the hardest thing they will find themselves doing. You aren’t just opening up with a story for the sake of it, you’re making yourself vulnerable. You’re allowing people to now have an opinion, and some people can even take it the next level and abuse you for it. I started reading bad things about myself, I’ll admit. But after a few comments back and fourth I soon realised it was getting nowhere and the more I tried, the less respect I was being given. It made me realise that I am a much better person I am then they are. It makes my blood boil that some people can think that just because they are going through a shit situation in their life, they are now entitled to be an arsehole to other people. And isn’t it funny that they aren’t doing it to their friends or family members. They are logging onto their social media accounts, hiding behind their computer screen typing their little hearts away until they feel a little happier thinking they may have brought someone down. I just want to say that I really do wish you happiness, but please stop trying to steal my positive energy and replacing it with your negative shit.
And guess what, you haven’t scared me off just yet! I’m still here. I guess the messages of support and love outweigh the hate. To the young girl with no kids that just told me I have helped her in more ways then I will ever know by sharing my experiences, to the women who can’t have children that take comfort in watching mine, to the Mum who just had a meltdown and feels better now because she watched mine, THANKYOU! Being told I’m all of these horrible things by a few small- minded people is so damn worth it because of YOU. I’ll continue to do what I’m doing which is finding and being me. You’ll find I don’t need to bash or bring anyone down in the process, as that’s just not who I am. You can look away if you don’t like it, and I promise you I wont be offended. I’m not wanting to change the world it was never my intention, I just wanted to share my story to help some people who are feeling alone and I’ve already done that, so the more people I relate to from here on is just a bonus.