Memories, it sounds corny but they really are priceless.
For me, the smaller my kids are the more precious ‘firsts’ and memories there are to keep track of. The time they were born, the length they were, their first words and their first steps. People have told you that you will never forget these details, but they do often fade, and as time goes on you start to confuse Child One’s milestones with Child Two’s. At the time they were born I didn’t believe you could misplace or muddle memories as special and priceless as these, but as time goes on and now having two bundles of joy and a third on the way, I realise these memories aren’t as clear as they once were.
With your first child it’s easy to capture, record and save memories for eternity, because from the moment you find out they’re on the way to the moment they arrive, they are your sole focus. They are your sun, your moon and your stars – they are your day and night. They are more than anything you have ever loved before and why wouldn’t you want to record and capture every single thing they do? And I mean Every. Single. Thing. Some might say you capture too much with your first!
Then you find out that you’re adding another sun, moon and stars to your world. Trying to record and capture the same things for your second child becomes immensely harder than before, even before they’ve even arrived. I found that not only was it harder to capture the special moments for Child Two, I found the special moments that Child One was experiencing were compromised as my attention was shared.
Nothing can compare to having two darlings but I do feel somewhat guilty for the moments I have missed capturing or recording. When looking at Milla’s baby book you can clearly see when Arlo came along because the writing trails off. The effort and time to sit down and write became unavailable and quite frankly the thought of it happening was ridiculous!
Soon I will have three suns (one son), moons and stars. Let’s not even start talking about dividing my attention three ways and finding time to sit down and write.
Baby Three’s memories are and will be just as priceless as Milla’s or Arlo’s, but they might just come in a different and more convenient form. I’m so relieved to have found a private space in Momatu to record and share Child Three’s memories with our nearest and dearest.
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